What’s the Big Deal About A Three-Way?

Posted by nicknotnikki on November 22, 2010 · 31 Comments 

   Since I’ve been single, I’ve had the opportunity to get to know a few men. Not on any kind of “love affair” level, but friendly wise. Everyone now and then at the wrong time of night someone might lapse into the sex conversation. (It’s usually the man, but you knew that already) And for the sake of “whatever” I’ll play along. It can go from, “what’s your favorite position” to “what’s your fantasy?” and other situations that I make sure to re-iterate, will never happen. Invariably the 3-way topic will come up. (And no, I’m not talking about phone calls) They’ll wonder if I would ever do one, have I ever done one and when I answer “no” they’ll wonder why.

   The last quy I was heavily involved with (sexually) was pretty tame when I met him. He was a bit too tame and he makes it a point of telling me that I broke him out. Needless to say, there were things that one would consider basic that he’d never done, let alone thought of, so I didn’t have to dodge any 3-way questions. He never fixed his mouth to ask me if there was a chick that I would consider “sending invitations” to. This is something I can appreciate because I didn’t want to have to say “you think I’m selfish with food, TRY SEX!”

   However, I realize that a dude like that is rare. There’s a lot more things openly discussed nowadays. Little taboos only spoken in hushed tones is now water cooler talk. I mean, I’m not working to know that for a fact per se, but I would imagine so. The thing is, that I really wonder what’s the selling point.

    What’s the big deal about a 3-way?

    I can draw my conclusions about it. I mean, I watch enough sex scenes movies and you can sometimes see the passion. Maybe the great thing about 3-ways is the “heat” behind it. That there’s so much sexual energy in the room that it cannot be denied. It doesn’t matter whose hand is where, no one can get enough. I often say that “everyone wants to devour everyone else.” Ok, that’s cool. I get that.

   Maybe the fact that they used to be so taboo adds to the excitement. Is it possible that it’s so “talked up” that everyone wants to do it just to say that they did it? To have that bit of “ooh, I’m a bad, bad girl” or to allow whichever man the license to do the muscle poses in the mirror.

    Yes, I believe that men do muscleman poses in the mirror. You can’t convince me otherwise.

     As I sit back and wonder, I’m not sure that it’s on my list. Don’t get me wrong, I’m ALL for doing the taboo acts. There’s all sorts of stuff I’m open to now (like bobblehead for the VIP’s) that was considered nasty in high school. Maybe with my being older now, my mind has opened somewhat. Maybe I need a few more years before 3-ways take up residence on my bucket list. Maybe.

   I thought about it earlier this year. Me and Maxfab had a conversation about it. Since I’m a very “situational” type of person, I could see myself doing it if the vibe is right. I used to find myself in some situations “because the vibe is right” and regret it in the morning. Which is why I hardly put myself in situations that might end up with me shaking my damn head. Perhaps it’s because I’m thinking with a clear head that 3-ways have me lookin all now.

    Almost every man I know has it on his list before he dies. Why? What is it about having two women at the same time that gives immediate stiffies at the thought? Some of you say that you can’t handle one woman, much less two. Why is that the logic when discussing why he’s not cheating, but in the bedroom it’s ok? Is it a power struggle? Does it make you feel like an King Ramses and your concubines are doing your bidding? I mean, I watch Bible movies too. I know how they got down.

    I’m not gonna say I’ll never do it, but I’m just thinking. I’m selfish enough with food. Sex is the ultimate act where I want all eyes (fingers, hands, wang, and tongue) on ME! I don’t mind if my neighbor hears, as long as there isn’t anyone else actually joining the party.

   Maybe there’s something I’m missing. So I’m putting it out there for all of you. Would you consider a 3-way? Did something about the movie “Trois” speak to you on a deep and personal level? Have you done it?! Cuz I REALLY wanna know how that even came up. No, I DO NOT need details. At ALL! Did it happen organically or did someone do a “quarterback sneak” and before you knew it there were too many hands in the cookie jar?

    What’s the big deal about a 3-way?

    I’m not in school right now, so you can teach me
   Peace and Love, Nick

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