Really. . . it’s just hair!
I’m not gonna B.S. you, this is a rant post. I’ve been roaming these nets for a while now. And even though my girl Max will tell you that I just got gmail (which is true) I’ve been engaging in conversations for a while. I love blogs (when done right) and interacting with different people from all over these States that are United (and some that aren’t). Discussions that allow for different thoughts and opinions rock my socks.
However, in the past couple of weeks, I’ve been involved in too many conversations about hair. Yeah, you read that right, HAIR! If you wanna see your lurkers pop out and say hello like Groundhog Phil, then mention “hair.” It doesn’t matter if you wear it natural, relaxed, or courtesy of Yaki #2578645 there is someone that will have something to say about hair. And my thought is, “Who the hell cares?”
There was recently some outrage over Jill Scott wearing her hair straightened. It seems like a lot of natural haired sistas got all hot and heated. My response is, “Why do you care?” Was Jill Scott elected “President and also a client” of this club? Why is it such a big deal that she decided to wear her hair a different way? Did she not consult everyone’s feelings or send out a poll before she decided to switch? I’m sure after the outcry, she’ll remember to consider everyone’s feelings next time. (Insert eye-roll here) If you could help me understand, then I would welcome it. I just ask that it make sense.
Last week on one of my favorite blogs, someone asked a question. It seemed like she’d started wearing her hair natural and was wondering how men felt about it. Really? Is this what we’re doing now? I didn’t know that one man’s opinion could speak for the whole gender. I’ve seen everything from black men saying that they don’t care about weave to others saying that they like curly/kinky hair. Everyone likes something different. Although women will scream that there’s a shortage of men (that’s all over, honey) are we REALLY at the point where we’re so caught up trying to figure out why that we’ve come up with nothing other than hair?! Really, HAIR!?
“Oh, he likes em natural, THAT’S why he didn’t ask for my number.”
Can we just agree that people like what they like, and let’s leave it at that?
However, to the men that don’t mind a woman with a certain type of hair, I do NOT want to have another conversation about head scarves. If you’re not willing to purchase a satin pillow case, then deal with it. It’s like you want to go to bed with Whitley (Different World, for the people!) and not remember that there might be a little bit of that scary scene from the first season where they were all in head scarves studying for the midterms (finals?). But for those of you that don’t remember that scene, you can see something like it here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rfTgfNhh7c0 (start at 1:33, I’ll wait)
*crosses arms and taps foot*
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t always wear scarves to bed but that’s my personal preference. If I’m sharing my bedspace with someone, I like to “up” the possibility of midnight activities and my head in a scarf does not make me feel attractive. But that’s just my stance on it. If I was dealing with some of the men whose opinions I’ve been reading lately, I would honestly say, “you have a choice. You cannot hate my headscarf and want my hair to take 10 minutes to put together in the morning. Figure it out and get back to me.” But then again, I’m just fiesty like that. I haven’t run across this issue a lot in my adult life, and perhaps that’s my luck. I don’t wear weave, but I cannot imagine my life if I had to wrap it up like Miyammi (scroll the page) had to do on Flavor of Love everytime she went near water. (Don’t you dare judge me)
It’s annoying. Honestly, I’m tired of talking about hair. Some men don’t mind, others do. The same way that some women don’t mind if a man has kids by 15 women, I do. Just suck it up and move it forward. I don’t wear my hair for anyone but me. I understand when said hair gets in the way of life and your chick can’t get to the party on time because her hair didn’t wave right, but honestly, if you want honey to look her best, then saddown and wait. Or get a low maintenance woman. Or start telling her creative times to ensure that she’s ready on time. So many options and the choice is yours.
But please, I don’t want to talk about hair anymore. And no, you can’t pull mine. Unless. . .
Nah, I don’t know ya’ll like that, you can’t pull mine.
I have no questions other than “Are you as sick of talking about hair as I am?” Should men’s opinions really become a factor in how women wear their hair? Because I just can’t subscribe to that train of thought.
Hair? Really?! iCantDeal
Peace and Love, Nick