Alright Karma, ENOUGH!
kar·maSo, I have a confession for you on this Wednesday.. Back when I was young (er), this guy I worked with had a crush on me. He was SO not my type, but after dealing with stupidity for a little while, I decided to engage him. I cannot say how many ways he wasn’t my type as there is a possibility that he might read this (yeah, I wrote that) but let’s just say there wasn’t gonna be a future. Not even if he wished upon a star. There was a slight issue tho:
He was separated from his wife.
Now, I realize that “separated” is a word that mostly 2520’s use and is one of the best #swindles known to man. But at this point, his wife had taken their children, moved to another state and turned to a life of muff diving. This made the work atmosphere a little easier because all three of us worked together. (yeah, I wrote that too) Let’s just say that I was much younger and felt more invincible back then. Not only that, but let’s just say that Karma might have been the last thing on my mind.
Fast forward a little bit, and he takes me out. At this point we’re spending some time together, his family likes how well spoken I am. Not to toot my own horn, but I was an upgrade from the wife. (WIFE!) We sleep together maybe a time or two and then I disappeared off the face of his earth. I haven’t spoken to him in years, but I’m having a slight problem with my current life that made him run across my mind last week. The fact that he found me on Facebook DID NOT help the situation any. (My Facebook pic is a pair of sneakers, and I don’t use my real name. FML!)
Problem: To this day, married men LOVE me! I know that this isn’t a particular problem that’s specific to me. But it isn’t just married men. It’s men with girlfriends. Men with pregnant girlfriends. Men that try to get at me in front of the wife. I mean, “I’ll speak in English, because my wife only talks in Creole.” Things like THAT! And I’m getting a little tired of it.
I have to sit back and wonder if this is Karma’s way of hitting me 7-fold because of the situation with the “Separated Guy.” I’m wondering if what’s happening to me now is a direct result of me not waiting til papers came through before I let him take me to see “War of the Worlds.” Is this gonna be my life from now til forever more? If this is what I sewed, then shouldn’t the crop that I reap have come and gone by now?
I mean, we talk about Karma all the time. But truthfully, how long is Karma gonna make me pay!? REALLY!?!? It’s been over 5 years at this point. I mean, do I have to wait 7 years, like when people file for Bankruptcy? Is it 7 years and then interest? Because honestly, I ain’t got that kinda time. If another married man tells me that he needs me in his life I’m gonna LOSE it! If that 24-year-old with the pregnant girlfriend tells me that I’m his soul mate ONE MO TIME!! I’m gonna set him on fire. A LITERAL 4-alarm blaze!! They say that space shuttles can only see the Great Wall from space. Well, that fire will be the 2nd thing they can see from space!
How long do you think I should pay? Karma is slapping me every which way from Sunday with this one here.. I really feel like the universe I live in, the parallel one, AND the Matrix have all conspired to make sure I remember. And I have to look Heaven-ward and say, “I remember!! Lemme LONE!” Do I have to work a rosary-bead? I mean, I’m not Catholic, but I’ll do it.
What do you think? Do you believe in Karma? Do you have a special relationship with her? (yes, she’s a woman) And if so, can you ask her how long this is supposed to last? I’m sure we all have regrets, but do you feel like you’ve done your penance? Is this one of those situations where I need to forgive myself first? Because I honestly feel like I have. UGH! Go ahead, you can preach in the comments…
Peace and Love, Nick
Nick@Nite 
Hi. Karma and I have a strained relationship. She said it takes as long as she wants for her to get over you. She gets attached really easily. I’m not in much of a preaching mood but I think I’ve served my time and done more Hail Mary’s and Our Father’s to be forgiven. I’ve even went to confession. (been like 3 years though). I honestly think Karma does her thing for the first half of that 7 year timeframe then the rest is all in the mind.
(I’d continue but it seems like all my comments haven’t been thought out and are half-spewed out. Forgive me Nick & Karma)
The premise of karma is a little deeper than how we use it Western society. Going with the ideal that we are reincarnated…we will face the SAME situations in each life until we figure out how NOT to get ourselves caught up…thus creating karma. So what you maybe experiencing may not even be a direct result of that particular situation…plus I think it’s in your mind at this point,lol.
But there’s also dharma, which is good karma. Like you said, you reap what you sow. It’s all about balancing out our screw ups as humans.
I believe you reap what you sow; but I’m not sure this is karma here. I think all these married men trying to get at your honeypot even though you know they’re married is just them being asshats. I think if it was karma it would be some other broad going to see War of the Worlds with your dude.
i dont know if id call this particular situation “karma”, or even say the age old “what goes around comes around”. if you were married or in a relationship, and your dude then stepped out on YOU, then yeah, maybe. men who want to cheat, married or otherwise, are going to do it. i too have had COUNTLESS men in relationships (w/ wives, fiances, serious gfs) try to holler at me and often be relentless and apologetic about it. (o_O) like why?? what is is about ME. and i think it just so happens that the men who approach us are bold enough to go there. i think theres something about strong willed women who dont play games that attract men to us–like we’re a challenge and they’re trying to see if they can break us.
*shrugs* idk. all i know is im tired of meeting these men too. but its nice to look at them and see what i DONT want in a man. and ive got more things to avoid to add to my checklist.
I have been in a relationship and had homeboy step out.. to be with someone that we both knew.. He’s the same one that ended up makin out with my friend last year.. That might be something for me to consider…
Wow, lol it seems like the same thing that happens to me too..except it’s with older guys (i’m 24) I’m talking 30, 40, 50 years old. Now I’m not knocking anyone who does enjoy older gents company, but for me it’s like come on already! also younger guys too I’m talking 17-21 years old. I’m thinking did I do something to them that makes them want them to attach themselves to me like fleas on a dog? I don’t encourage them in the slightest way! Karma and I are going to have to have a serious talk..
It doesn’t get any better.. i’m 32 and guys my age aren’t attracted to me.. i either get the 23-27 year olds, or the 40-55 year olds.. maybe my eyes just aren’t opened.. I don’t know..
And welcome!!
hope there is no quota for blog replies..
so…i dont think it’s karma. there is something in you (think magnet) that is attracting certain dudes.
as you said, you were young, and foolish, and desparate. at least she was in another state. sure that sounds like justification, but you have seen the errors of your ways & have repented your sins (presumably you haven’t done it again..). not to get all CHUCH in here..but Karma doesn’t overrule GOD and GOD aint got that kind of time to hold grudges. he’s workin on making you better.
for the longest time, ALL that i seemed to be able to attract were American men. it was ridiculous. so i kept getting into these LDR’s because i claimed men from Tdot didnt want to date me. i was going where i was wanted right? well.. part of it is a self-fulfiling prophecy.. i WAS running from men here (for whatever reasons) and consciously/subconsiously only pursuing what i felt was my lifes path.
i dont know how you feel about where your romantic career is going, but perhaps you are only attracting people who are already attached because you give an air of not wanting to settling down. im not playing psychotherapist, just offering some food for thought…
DON’T THINK IT’S KARMA GIRLIE, HOWEVER, JUST TELL THE PIECE OF CRAPS TO LEAVE YOU ALONE. AND AT TIMES THERE ARE SPIRITS BEHIND THINGS. WHEN YOU EXPERIENCE CERTAIN THINGS AT AN INNOCENT TIME IN YOUR LIFE, CERTAIN SPIRITS ATTACH THEMSELVES TO YOU. FOR EXAMPLE I HAVE FOUND THAT MANY THAT WERE MOLESTED ONCE, ALL OF A SUDDEN FELT THAT THEY WERE LABELED. IT DIDN’T MATTER WHERE THEY WERE, A PIECE OF CRAP MOLESTER WOULD TRY THEM AND NOT OTHER PEOPLE. I CAN ATTEST TO THAT. SO AT TIMES IT’S A SPIRITUAL THING THAT YOU HAVE TO TAKE AUTHORITY OVER AND RENOUNCE. LOVE YA HUN